How to raise a happy person
We have repeatedly written about the importance of the emotional intellect — the ability to cope with emotions, to recognize emotions of other people, and to control complex experiences. This is one of the key skills of successful people and it is necessary to learn it from childhood. Where can the parents take information on the subject and to glean knowledge about methods of developing the emotional intellect of children? We offer you 8 good books about it.
This book is a writing of one of principal investigators of the emotional intellect, so it is better to start studying the subject from this bestseller. Daniel Goleman discovered the notion «emotional intellect» and proved its importance in formation of a child’s personality. For many parents themselves it will be helpful to find out, why one can not suppress emotions and how to manage negative emotions like anger and fear. It turns out that all our problems in relations with children, colleagues and each other are explained by gaps in emotional education. Therefore, let us make up leeway and teach our children to be happy.
Emotional intellect of a child
John Gottman, Joan Dekler
How do you imagine for yourself the emotional education: you are sitting on the sofa and reading for a child the lecture on how to behave? The authors of this book believe that the emotional education is the way the parents communicate with their children in emotional moments. The parents should learn to adequately respond to negative feelings of a child and to talk to it about all sorts of emotions openly. Exactly this method can teach children to cope with their problems.
Language of the life. Non-violent communication
Marshall Rosenberg is a peacemaker, and he will teach you to communicate without the «use of force». It sounds very tempting. This can be useful in any area of life, and in communication with children— much more.
Child – optimist
Since recently the positive thinking is our all. So, why not to teach it to a child? The founder of the Positive Psychology and author of this book Martin Seligman helps the parents in this difficult matter. He believes that exactly the optimism is the key to the future success and healthy self-esteem. But if it is true that children adopt our vision of life, then, in order to raise an optimist, we need to become such an optimist ourselves. The practical advice, tests and useful exercises are waiting for you in the book.
My child is an introvert
Children can be quite unlike us. Of course, you can be a fan of parties in pajamas and pillow fights, paintball and Wits & Humor competition, but your child can only fend off gloomily your suggestions to join this «celebration of life». Everything is OK with the baby, it is just an introvert. There is no need to redo it. There is only a need to understand it. This book will help you with this as well as give useful recommendations that will help you to develop a child’s abilities and achieve success in the world of extroverts.
Highly sensitive child
Is your child timid, lone and fearful? It is just highly sensitive. It is said by the author — a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience. Raising such a child is not easy, especially because the popular educational methods can only aggravate the emotional fragility of a child. The book describes the most common problems and methods of their solution, as well as gives the basic principles of education, which should be guided by the parents of highly sensitive children in order to raise them happy in the world, where it is difficult for them.
You can more than you think
This is primarily a book for teens, but the parents can also read it. This book should be read starting from 10 years. Psychologists say that exactly at this age there is a beginning of the self-determination peak associated with the search for own talents. But the talent is not always there, where the full mark takes place. What is this, to be “clever” in real life? Non-achievers and low-performing students often become more successful than honors students. Why is this happening? Where is the real intellect hidden? The book is based on Gardner’s emotional intellect theory. It tells about nine types of the intellect — nine different ways to be clever, as well as helps children to get rid of complexes and labels imposed by the society.
What is it in its mind?
Amber and Andy Ankovski
Do not forget that small children think differently! The authors of this book offers 33 simple psychological experiments that will help the parents to better understand their children (starting from the birth to seven years old). Results of such experiments have the practical importance: now you can avoid children’s tantrums, reduce the consumption of sweets, kick start to the development of memory and responsibility and, of course, you will learn how to better understand your baby.